When the mother feels that the baby is familiar with her, the baby coos and “talks back” to the mom, when they are able to hold hands and feed the baby, then the mother-child bond is secure. It’s a sign that secure attachment is present for all parents/caregivers when they are able identify the baby’s different sounds and respond to their needs. Secure attachment can also be expressed by the child accepting separation with a little crying and welcoming back the parent/caregiver with full joy, not rejection.
Attachment issues: Risk factors
Expectant mothers may feel inadequate as a mother, which could affect attachment. Attachment and bonding can be hindered by substance abuse or depression. The mother’s age could also play a part as young mothers are more likely to experience attachment problems.
Mothers who are pregnant may show signs that could indicate potential bonding or attachment issues. These signs include:
When you are expecting, feeling “blue”, or sad, angry, and irritable
Feeling overwhelmed by feelings like “I don’t want this baby” or “Why am i bringing this child into this world?” Other than the usual mixed feelings about pregnancies
- They feel they can’t be a good mom
- Anger at the unborn baby
What can I do if my mother-baby bonding issues are causing me problems?
Pregnant mothers who have been diagnosed with high-risk conditions should seek treatment in specialized clinics. They can help them to bond and connect with their baby. The risk of maltreatment is reduced by treatment. The treatment examines the reasons the mother feels the way she does. It also helps to develop attachment and bonding with the baby through special exercises that focus on replacing negative reactions or behaviors that hinder attachment.
A conversation between the mom and her doctor is the best way to start looking for treatment. Prenatal visits should include a routine discussion about the expectant mother’s emotional state and future aspirations. Referring to a mental health professional may be necessary if there are concerns about feelings of rejection, anxiety, or feeling unprepared.
