How to Parent More Effectively

1. How to Boost your child’s Self-Esteem

As babies, children develop a sense of self when they look at their parents. Your tone of voice and body language are all absorbed by your children. Their self-esteem is affected by their parents’ words and actions more than any other factor.

Children will feel proud of their accomplishments, no matter how small. Kids will feel empowered and capable if they are allowed to do the work themselves. Children will feel inferior if they are made to feel like they are worthless by making unfavorable comments about their peers or comparing them with others.

Avoid using words or phrases as weapons. Commentaries like, “What a stupid thing!” You act more like your little brother than a baby! Just as much damage can be caused by physical blows.

Be mindful of your words and show compassion. Be understanding and let your children know that mistakes happen.

2. Catch Kids Being Good

Did you ever stop to consider how often you react negatively towards your children in a given day. Sometimes you may find yourself criticizing more than complimenting. What would you think about a boss who gave you so much negative guidance even though it was good intentions?

It’s better to capture kids doing something well: “You made your own bed without asking — that’s fantastic!” Or “I was watching your sister play with your brother and you were so patient.” These statements are more effective than repeated scoldings at encouraging good behavior.

Every day, find something to be proud of. Give your children and grandchildren a lot of love and hugs. You will soon see that you are “growing” in the behavior you desire.

3. You must set limits and be Consistent in your Discipline

Every household needs discipline. Discipline is designed to teach children self-control and help them choose acceptable behavior. While they may be able to test the boundaries you set for them, they still need those limits in order to become responsible adults.

The best way to help your children learn self-control is to establish house rules. You might have to stop TV until your homework is completed. Also, no name-calling or hitting are allowed.

It might be a good idea to have a system in place. One warning followed by consequences like a “timeout” or loss privileges. Failure to enforce the consequences is a common error made by parents. It is impossible to discipline children for speaking up one day and then ignoring it the next. Consistency teaches you what to expect.

4. Take time for your Children

Parents and children often find it difficult to meet up for a meal together, let alone spend quality family time. There is nothing that kids love more than a good meal. You can get up earlier to eat breakfast together, or you can take a walk with your child after dinner. Children who don’t get the attention they deserve from their parents are more likely to act out or be disruptive.

It is a great idea for parents to plan time together with their children. You can create a “special evening” for your family each week and let the kids decide how you spend it. Find other ways to connect with your kids. Put a note or something in their lunchbox.

Adolescents require less attention from parents than their younger siblings. Parents should make every effort to reach out to their teenager when they are interested in participating in family activities or talking to them. Teens have fewer opportunities to meet with their parents. Participating in concerts, games and other events with your teenager communicates care and allows you to get to know your child’s friends in important ways.

If you are a working parent, don’t feel guilty. The little things that you do, such as making popcorn, playing with cards, and window shopping, are what your kids will remember.

5. Be a Role Model

Watching their parents can teach young children a lot about how they act. Your child’s age will determine how much they learn from you. Think about what you would like your child to do when they get mad. Your children are constantly watching you. Research has shown that kids who hit often have a role model at home for aggression.